Overweight? Wait Over!
Becoming Slimmer Now
I am having success helping overweight people in becoming
slimmer by dealing with the BIG issues surrounding weight loss.
Not to make light of any overweight person's achievement,
I find it is important they understand that their current condition is something
that they have achieved. Overweight may not be a desired achievement, yet
it is an achievement! Another hidden achievement is their muscular
body. Yes, muscular body. They are the most enthusiastic exercise
fanatics I've seen, most body-builders leave their weights at the gym.
carrying an extra 100 pounds all day every day creates an amazing amount
of muscle. They get to enjoy their muscular body after they eat only enough
for a person who is the target size and use the energy in their fat to
carry their fat.
Overweight? Wait over! I'm becoming slimmer now! Slimmer,
is more becoming.
The simple statement above is responsible for several
clients becoming slimmer easily and happily. The very language of "lose?
wait!" or is it "lose = weight" can play to the self image of confident
(I am not a loser) and unconfident (I am a loser) people. The word 'overweight'
also aptly describes the behavioral condition, they have been waiting too
long before taking action. A delayed feedback loop (Hmm.. the irony!).
Speaking of feedback, most people need feedback
to feel successfully motivated to continue their slimming behavior. Using
the scale, or even the measuring tape, does not provide feedback often enough.
A persons body always lets them know when it is using up fat reserves, hunger.
Paying attention to this hunger signal provides immediate feedback that
fat is being used. Enjoy being mildly hungry. The body provides a different
signal when it runs low on energy, this signal definitely requires a little
feeding
I believe it is most important for you to find the
beliefs and values that are effecting the clients weight. I have had a few
who believed that, "Inevitably (presupposes the rest is true), everyone gets
heavier as they get older." Their experience proved this out. No mater how
many diets and exercise programs, they gained a few pounds each year. 3 pounds
a year for 30 years is 90 pounds! Changing this belief with counterexamples
etc results in a cascade of eating behavior changes that cause the client
to conform to the new belief that they can now become slimmer.
Many of my clients were eating to maintain their
poor self esteem. Eating feels good (comfort) and supports the proof of self
esteem (achievement). I overcome this by teaching them how to feel wonderful
anytime (link to stress triggers) and giving them a sense of connection to
community, world & universe (comfort there).
During trance I have the client build a sensory
rich, 3D image of them self already slim and standing in front of them. Then
I instruct the client to: stand behind image and step into themselves, imagine
running their hands all over their muscular body while looking in a mirror.
Overweight people are usually experts on how to
remove fat, what to eat, when to eat, which exercises, that energy in minus
energy out = storage, etc. I confirm this in the pre-trance discussion. Then,
after dealing with the "larger" issues, I provide confirming suggestions and
future pace their use of this behavior.
NLP Webinar on
Becoming Slimmer
Here are the results of the webinar on becoming slimmer.
People at the Webinar presented a range of experience:
always slim; became slim; wannabe slim; regular exercise; wannabe exercising.
In addition to the reframes, use of language and outcome
setting methods outlined in the 'Over weight? wait over!' article, the following
strategies emerged.
Mental activities. What is acceptable or OK body shape
at various ages?
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Note how quickly the mind thinks as it generalizes normal
body shape at various ages.
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Pick a few examples of people who have the desired body
shape.
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Quickly generalize, as before, the desired body shape
as normal for self.
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Rapidly imagine consistently doing the following 2 activities.
Repeat often.
Physical activities of becoming slimmer.
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Minimizing carbohydrates and sugars in diet.
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Maximizing physical activity. Guiding principle is to
keep it simple.
Enjoy,
Steve Boyley.
Licensed Trainer of NLP.
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