Getting To
Sleep: The 3 Faces Of Relaxation
Anyone can get to sleep fast using this process,
even people with insomnia.
During the last few years, I have helped many clients with
insomnia learn how to get to sleep. One client claimed that he had not had a
good night sleep in 9 years, even when using sleeping pills! Most of these
clients used to be transport truck drivers. They got very good at staying
awake... well, kind of awake. The rest of the clients were anxious to solve
various day to day problems. In all cases there was some depression. At the
very least they were depressed about not sleeping (staying awake).
Although we often think of insomnia as a sleep problem,
the problem is actually in the awake state.
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Anxious type client believes that solving problems requires conscious
internal processing. Thinking about unresolved problems causing
insomnia, becomes another problem requiring conscious internal processing.
In NLP this is called a calibrated loop.
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Driver type client is very adept at using conscious internal processing
to stay awake. Often these clients spent large amounts of time in a
trance like state. You know the kind I mean, where you are there but not
really there until something happens that you have to pay outward
attention to. Most of these client also remember an imprinting event that
screams "STAY AWAKE" in their mind.
Here's what I tell them:
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It's OK to sleep. IT
IS OK TO SLEEP, you are safe, you will be OK and problems will be easier to
manage as a result of sleeping. Ever hear "let me sleep on it"? Your
unconscious mind is more capable than you at reviewing and sorting
information while you sleep. Re-lax. Time to be lax again. It's OK to forget
about all that important stuff for a night, each night.
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Be awake when you need to
be awake. Being half asleep when you should be awake, is the same as
being half awake when you should be asleep. If you are in a mode that
conserves energy while you disassociate, get back in here. Find something to
occupy your mind that is outside of your mind. If you are thinking of
problems, write them down along with your ideas and musings. If you work at
a brain dead job, pay attention instead of daydreaming or get a different
job. If you are not working, get a project to work on. Avoid simmering
through your day, get a head of steam, crank up the heat to the Boyleying
point.
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The easiest way to get your conscious internal
processing to shut up and let you sleep, is to give it something to do that
helps your mind relax. Focus on letting 3 waves of deep relaxation
spread over your scalp and face. Think about letting go of all the tension
in your scalp, your face and your jaw. Think about the deep relaxation
spreading over your scalp and face and pay close attention, you want to
notice when you feel each of the 3 waves of deep relaxation spreading over
your scalp and face. If your mind wanders onto other things, come back to
paying attention to feeling each of the waves of deep relaxation spreading
over your scalp and face. After you feel the first wave, you might notice
yourself thinking "It cant relax more than this" but it does! Continue
to pay attention and wait for the second wave of relaxation. After the
second relaxing wave, you probably won't notice the third wave relaxing
you into blissful sleep.
After a little practice, this process has provided
insomniac clients with the ability to sleep anytime and anywhere they want to.
Many people find that simply using step 3 above, makes it easy for them to get
to sleep fast.
Enjoy,
Steve Boyley.
Licensed Trainer of NLP.
Instructor of Hypnotherapy.
NLP Mind Training Webinar Host.
Affordable NLP Practitioner Training.
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