Using NLP Meta Model to Understand
Reality
According to the NLP Meta Model, we start arriving
at our model/map of reality through deleting reality.
The NLP Meta Model describes the process people use to experience
their unique reality.
'Leave out' or 'ignore' may be physically
more accurate than delete, but it is easier to think of as information being
deleted. When you 'delete' information as in (A.1.) below, some of it
is not physically present to be retrieved and some of it is. The NLP Meta
and Milton models show how mental process we use involves deletion distortion
and generalization, it's reflected in their language.
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Reality is complete.
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You experience reality by deleting huge amounts of it
(sensory input).
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You then delete some of what you have experienced when
you remember it.
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You then delete some of what you remember of experience
when you communicate about it.
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In each step above, what is deleted depends on:
Context, sensory relevance, conditioned responses, beliefs and values.
E.g. Have you ever used only one word, like "Fantastic!"
or "Great!" to describe your vacation to someone?
Your communication deletes tremendous amounts of information.
In order to understand what is being communicated, a person may use their own
experiences to fill in what's been deleted (This is how deletion is used in
the Milton Model). Misunderstanding is created when the deletions are not filled
in the way the communicator intended. When you want to acquire a better understanding,
you'll ask questions about the information you are getting. You want to reverse
the way people transform experience into language, to get closer to the actual
experience. You can also help others expand their existing experience of reality
in a way that helps them deal with it more effectively, by questioning what
they are deleting from it.
A sentence may contain several deletions. Which one
you ask a question about, depends on the response you want to get. If you don't
get the response you want, ask another question or another type of question.
To get more information about someone's experience, a simple question to ask
yourself is "What is being deleted here?".
The version of how to question deletions, shown below,
has had details deleted. Learning the detailed version will enable you to
use this simple one more effectively.
Elements of language that delete experience.
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Deletion: Information is missing and people presume
you know what it is.
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Too Much, Too many, Too expensive. Ask: Compared
to what?
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Unspecified Verbs. Ask: How?
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Nouns. Ask: Who or what?
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Distortion: Information is kind 'a there but it's
not.
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Generalization: Information is limited, restricting.
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Universals: All, Every, Never. Ask: All?
Every? Never?
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Quantifiers: Should, Shouldn’t, Must, Can’t.
Ask: What if you did or didn't? What causes or prevents?
The above describes how people experience reality, using
that information requires noticing it in reverse order. Start noticing
how people generalize their experience of reality.
Deletion relates directly to the core of experience and as
such, cannot be deleted.
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