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NLP Meta Model of Reality
According to the NLP Meta Model, we start arriving
at our model/map of reality through deleting reality.
The NLP Meta Model describes the process people use to
experience their unique reality; deletion, distortion & generalization.
Leave out' or 'ignore' may be physically more accurate
than delete, but it is easier to think of as information being deleted.
When information is 'deleted', some of it is not physically present in the
brain to be
retrieved and some of it is.
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You delete large amounts of sensory input to form
the basis of experience.
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You delete some of what you have experienced when
you remember it.
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You delete some of what you remember when you communicate about it.
In each step above, what is deleted depends on:
Context, sensory relevance, conditioned responses, beliefs and values.
An example of this is when someone uses only one word, like "Fantastic!"
or "Great!" to describe their vacation.
Communication deletes tremendous amounts of
information.
In order to understand what is being communicated, a person may use their
own experiences to fill in what's been deleted. Misunderstanding is created when the deletions are not
filled in the way the communicator intended. To acquire a better
understanding, ask questions about the information you are getting.
Questioning what is being deleted can help expand someone's communication,
memory and experience of reality in ways that helps them deal with it more
effectively.
A sentence may contain several deletions. Which
one you ask a question about, depends on the response you want to get. If
you don't get the response you want, ask another question or another type
of question. To get more information about someone's experience, a simple
question to ask yourself is "What is being deleted here?".
The above describes how people experience reality,
using that information requires noticing it in reverse order. Start
with how people generalize their experience of reality. The version of how to question deletions, shown below,
has had details deleted. Learning the detailed version will enable you
to use this simple one more effectively.
Elements of language that delete experience.
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Generalization: Information is limited,
restricting.
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Universals: All, Every, Never. Ask:
All? Every? Never?
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Quantifiers: Should, Shouldn’t, Must, Can’t.
Ask: What if you did or didn't? What causes or prevents?
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Distortion: Information is kind 'a there but
it's not.
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Deletion: Information is missing and people
presume you know what it is.
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Too Much, Too many, Too expensive. Ask:
Compared to what?
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Unspecified Verbs. Ask: How?
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Nouns. Ask: Who or what?
Deleting deletion is a paradox. Deletion is at the core of experience and
as such, cannot be deleted.
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